Alcoholism, passive aggressiveness, chronic procrastination... all these behaviors come from stress. While some people are more prone to stress-related diseases than others, we are all susceptible to the negative impact of stress if we don't manage it properly. Fortunately, there are things we can do to proactively manage stress.
Determine what you can control
In every situation, there are things we can control. It is important to honestly examine what you can do to improve the situation. The first thing you can control is your interpretation of the event. Instead of seeing the situation as one crazy mess that is beyond repair, calm down, and try to define the problem. If you feel tired all the time, you may want to investigate why. Is it a dietary problem or an emotional one? Or is it because you are trying to avoid certain tasks or people?
One thing that we can always control is our interpretation of events. If you come from an abusive family or have an unhappy childhood, I feel for you. As much as I would love to go back in time with you and change whatever happened, we have to accept that no one can turn back time and rewrite history. Luckily, we can choose to use these unfortunate events as catalysts, to use them as lessons and motivations to live our best life today.
Another thing we can control is our own behaviors. We can increase our chances of successfully completing a task by beginning early. We can make our job more secure by improving our productivity at work.We can avoid falling back into alcoholism by meeting a friend at a great restaurant instead of a bar. Once you are open to the idea that you can control something in every situation, you will see many new opportunities in improving your life.
Trust me on this. I know how difficult it is to remain calm and objective when we are suffering so much emotionally. But there is a huge benefit in maintaining objectivity: freedom. When we are not bound by our emotions we have a much better chance in delivering a great performance that can help us get unstuck, say getting a promotion, a new job offer or a new romantic relationship. If you are trapped in a job that you don't like and feel that you are bullied and abused, you will be tempted to let your anger and fear take over. You may just turn bitter and sour. Your higher self however will tell you, if you are to survive in this political game and win the ultimate prize (a promotion or a better job elsewhere), you better have the emotional intelligence to manage these difficult people.
Preparation & organization
Being well prepared and having excellent organization skills is half the success. Why is that? When we plan our time carefully and organize our tasks and our to do lists systematically, we will find it easy to see the priority. Instead of always playing the catchup game, you can feel secured that you know exactly what needs to be done first. Use a free service such as Google calendar, it lets your plan and edit events easily online. If you feel more comfortable using traditional calendars, get one and actually use it. Write down the tasks you need to do and their due dates, then start prioritizing. You may be tempted to procrastinate, but I promise you if you actually use a calendar, you can avoid many hassles and live with a peace of mind.